you can position the with before="account" or after="account"

<referenceBlock name="top.links">           
      <block class="Magento\Framework\View\Element\Html\Link\Current" name="cart" before="account">
                <arguments>
                 <argument name="label" xsi:type="string">Cart</argument>
                <argument name="path" xsi:type="string">checkout/cart</argument>          
                </arguments>            
      </block> 
</referenceBlock>

you can position the with before="account" or after="account"

<referenceBlock name="header.links">           
      <block class="Magento\Framework\View\Element\Html\Link\Current" name="cart" before="account">
                <arguments>
                 <argument name="label" xsi:type="string">Cart</argument>
                <argument name="path" xsi:type="string">checkout/cart</argument>          
                </arguments>            
      </block> 
</referenceBlock>