The categories are added in the top menu using this method Mage_Catalog_Model_Observer::addCatalogToTopmenuItems
.
buy default the method looks like this:
public function addCatalogToTopmenuItems(Varien_Event_Observer $observer)
{
$this->_addCategoriesToMenu(Mage::helper('catalog/category')->getStoreCategories(), $observer->getMenu());
}
This means that it adds to the top menu the result of Mage::helper('catalog/category')->getStoreCategories()
recursively.
All you need to do is to rewrite this method and make it show only the child categories you need.
Something like this. Let's say that your shoes
category id is 5.
public function addCatalogToTopmenuItems(Varien_Event_Observer $observer)
{
$parent = 5;
$recursionLevel = max(0, (int) Mage::app()->getStore()->getConfig('catalog/navigation/max_depth') - 1) //subtract 1 from the set recursion level because we skip a level;
$categories= Mage::getModel('catalog/category')->getCategories($parent, $recursionLevel, false, false, true);
$this->_addCategoriesToMenu($categories, $observer->getMenu());
}
I haven't tested it, but I think the idea is there.