I want to override the grid of customer to delete some columns from and add others so how to proceed. I overrided the customer_listing.xml but no result
Try adding sequence to your module.xml if your overriding is not working.
<sequence> <module name="Magento_Customer" /> </sequence>
In your overrided file, you can specify the column visibility to either true or false (to hide and show the columns). However manually setting the column visibility in admin grid will take more priority.