My client wishes to make a simple 2 server magento setup, one for the database and one for the webserver. Most AMI out there or AWS deployments are much much more complicated (and expensive!) and not really needed yet by us at this time. Deploy4me had a great solution that was just that for us, but as per my correspondence with them they have since taken it down due to errors in mysql they said it will be up again eventually but it's probably best I deploy manually if time is an issue (which it is).
I have searched far and wide for hours, looking at vagrant, docker, puphpet, puppet, AMI's, and AWS documentation in regards to deployment and magento, blogs for setups by hand, install scripts, blogs about beanstalk on amazon and so on and so on, without finding one simple solution yet for deploying just a LEMP stack with mysql on a separate machine, outside deploy4me, which as I stated is not offering that service at this time. So, that's why I'm posting here, in hopes anyone here might know of some deployment method with that fairly popular and well recommended setup included. Which is why I'm somewhat confused as to why finding that setup is so hard. I do have the knowledge to build it from scratch, but it's time consuming to do right and will cost my client unneeded dev hours. I could go with a full scaling solution, but I'm guessing he'd be upset at the cost of some of these 5+ server setup solutions and has expressly forbade a single server solution.